Thursday, October 10, 2013
Gender =/= Binary
We all know that some people are boys and some people are girls.
Most of us also know that some women feel like they should have been born men and vise versa.
But the thing that hardly anyone (outside of the internet) talks about is that some people don't identify with any gender at all. Or maybe you feel about 65% man, 30% woman, and 5% "meh?"
Gender identity is a continuum. You can identify at any point on the 0-infinity scale.
My theory is that gender is a made-up construct*.
*Overall, I am a female with no real problems with this fact. I don't want this theory/argument to AT ALL diminish the very real struggles transgender individuals deal with on a daily basis. I don't know how that feels. However, I theorize that without the societal pressure surrounding gender constructs that I feel we imposed upon ourselves as a species perhaps people wouldn't feel uncomfortable in their own bodies anymore. If there weren't all these rules about WHO you're supposed to be based upon your genitalia, would you be unhappy with the shape of that genitalia?
How many of, again societal, problems would be fixed if gender binaries weren't so strictly enforced?
I've whined many times about the continuum of sexuality. The dial tunes precisely for preferences of frequency and gender. A third dial is for gender identity. Or maybe the second two dials shouldn't even exist at all. Without gender, your identity AND your attraction to another would be attached to who you are, not what's between your legs and flooding your brain.
Life could be more about how we treat each other and whether or not we're nice human beings than about gender and sex.
While it's not as simple as dials that go from 1-10, if you were to determine where you fit on these three dials, what would your numbers be [see chart above]?
Sexuality -- 3.5
Gender Preference -- 6.5
Gender Identity -- 4